The internet supports my dad who left a ‘ruthless’ family in ‘filth’ on vacation

The father who eventually became frustrated with the way things were going on a family vacation he paid for was backed by a colleague reddit Users in the popular forum “Am I a ** hole” to leave and book a hotel room for himself.

u/Murky_Ad_193 asked ‘AITA to leave my family in ‘filth’ and go to ‘resort’ in officeWhich has garnered more than 11,000 votes since its publication on Wednesday.

He said he decided to pay leave to include his close family and many of his in-laws. When things went down the slope, u/Murky_Ad_193, who had only heard complaints, decided to book a hotel room.

Frustrated father on vacation
Above, a photo of a man staring out the window. One Reddit user said he decided to book a hotel room after it became difficult to deal with a vacation with all his family members due to all the complaints they were making.
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Difficult family members

When dealing with difficult family members, an article published Psychology Today He said it wasn’t worth trying to “fix” them.

“Sometimes it works, but oftentimes your efforts will not be rewarded,” the outlet said. “In fact, trying to fix someone or improve their life can become a huge inconvenience, because the more you do for them, the more they want from you.”

It’s also important for someone to enforce boundaries.

“Never allow any personal interaction or relationship to encroach upon or challenge your well-being,” the article said.


In his post, u/Murky_Ad_193 said he wants to pay leave for his immediate family and extended family, which includes his father-in-law, his mother-in-law, his brother-in-law, his wife and their children – 10 people in total.

Although he rented a truck and a large house with a swimming pool, problems arose when the vacation began. u/Murky_Ad_193 said he and his wife chose the “most beautiful” room in the house, while his father-in-law and his mother chose to stay in the pool house. That left five bedrooms for six other people.

What should have been a simple task to choose the rooms turned family u/Murky_Ad_193 ask why he and his wife chose the “best room”, why one of the rooms had a bigger TV and why they couldn’t order every meal.

“I just went to my room and went to sleep,” u/Murky_Ad_193 said. “Day one. More BS. Why do we have to wait in lines? Why don’t we get a tour guide that lets us skip the lines?”

He said his wife then said they shouldn’t have to cook at home and it “wasn’t fair” leaving her and her sister-in-law to clean.

“My kids are always helping out,” u/Murky_Ad_193 said. “Me too. BIL sits on ** though.”

In the end, he got tired of hearing complaints. While the family was having dinner one night, u/Murky_Ad_193 booked suites in a hotel.

“I texted my wife and told her I would meet everyone in the morning at the park,” he said. “She’s angry that I let her deal with these greedy rapists.”

u/Murky_Ad_193 later updated Redditors and said his wife joined him at the hotel, but they planned to go home.

“My brother-in-law was told that if he looked into our room he and his wife were going to a hotel,” he said. “In-laws have been told Uber wherever they want. We still take everyone out for one dinner but all the other non-home made meals pay your own way. And the brother-in-law is responsible for cleaning up after meals.”

Redditors’ reaction

Several Reddit users took to the comments section and expressed their support for how u/Murky_Ad_193 chose to handle the challenging holiday.

“This is actually funny,” read one of the top comments. “You took time off from the leave of your deserving relatives. Well, maybe you should have warned your wife and brought her and let the other relatives figure things out for themselves.”

Another Reddit user wrote: “I can’t imagine the level of entitlement it would take to get paid family leave and complain about not getting the best room.”

One Reddit user said that should be the last time you should pay u/Murky_Ad_193 for a vacation for everyone.

NEWSWEEK u/Murky_Ad_193 accessed for comment. We were unable to verify the details of the case.

Other Reddit users have taken their issues to the “Am I the A**hole” forum.

one man He faced backlash for faking an injury to make his partner come home from their brother’s wedding. Friend He was criticized for sharing an embarrassing story of a man while at a dinner party.

a woman She received support after she “shame her body” on her sister by telling her that her shirt was too small and not suitable for an office job.

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